21st Century Sex Education
... Oral Sex as Safe Sex - the MYTHS BUSTED
It is quite a common trend these days that most of us dutifully and sometimes even compulsively, strive to keep up to date with the many and various advancing technologies; perhaps fashion or maybe scientific discoveries are our thing; or possibly world affairs float our boats. However how many of us think to bother to take the time and make the effort to update our knowledge relating to our sexual natures and sexual interactions and transaction?
It’s been a while? Well here’s one to get you in the groove and start the ball rolling.
One of the major misconceptions floating around our 21st Century commonly accepted halls of myths, regarding ‘safe sex’ practices, is that Oral sex is one of the safest methods of providing the ‘ultimate sexual stimulation and satisfaction’. However the truth is that Oral Sex is far from safe. The ‘unsung’ reality is, that whether it is the practice of allowing a penis or the outer labia of the female genitalia to pass our lips, oral sex is up there with the worst of the worst Trojan Horses that transport ‘the nastiest of a nasty bunch’ of health destroying viruses and diseases into our bodies, via the channel of the mouth.
It is true to say that while the majority of young and old who play the ‘love game’ are ever so picky about the cleanliness of the food they put into our mouths, many are not so discerning about the hygienic or sanitary condition of the genitalia that cross the threshold their mouths. Unfortunately it seems to be a well-kept secret that the most common way for sexually transmitted infections (STIs) to be passed on is through Oral Sex.
The First Line of Defense against the Scourge of Orally Transmitted Sexual Diseases
Sure enough, no one can argue with the agreement that you can’t get pregnant performing oral sex; and many a young teenage girl has been lured into ‘going down on’ a pestering, pressuring and persistent guy, possessing not much more than just that pathetic promise and proposal. However there are still major risks that he will expose her to, the moment he convinces her that the condom can be dispensed with.
Usually and understandably, she will readily only too willingly to agree to ditching the rubber; because let’s not lie or play the usual game of pretend - who in their ‘right mind’ or who isn’t in a position of having to ‘sell a piece of themselves’, relishes the idea and the actual literal distasteful practice of sucking on a plastic bag? Let’s be honest: there is no fun in that for anyone; is there?
So let’s not recycle the usual useless advice here – where it is suggested that the guy dons a condom and a dental dam, which is a thin piece of latex, be put between the labia and the performers face in an effort to prevent an STI. The fact is, in the real world of ‘casual sex’ – ‘hit and runs,’ or ‘one night stands - call it what you like, no uses the dam things.
Why? Because these bits of plastic touted to protect us, afford such a minuscule degree of sensation that it is hardly worth the effort. In truth and most everyone’s experience - it is most absolutely not worth the bother. And so this well-intentioned advice to ‘use protection’ is largely, historically and currently, completely ignored. Hence throughout the world, despite the huge advertising campaigns designed to scare us within an inch of our lives, epidemics of Gonorrhea, Chlamydia and Genital Herpes have become as common as the common cold, effecting the loftiest of the upper classes and scaling up to the lowest of the lower classes.
Okay, now that all the ‘Kill Joying’ has been completely dished out onto everyone’s plate, what is left? ‘Hands’ of course people - use your beautifully crafted, dexterous hands to provide the ultimate in clean, safe pleasurable sensuous sexual stimulation. Even the most inexperienced and clumsy cannot possibly fail to delight to some degree. Undeniably skillful, manual stimulation of either gender’s genitalia is the only true form of ‘Safe Sex.’ No one can possibly get pregnant; nor, ‘if you wash your hands, beforehand’, can you transfer or contract a sexually transmitted disease, to or from, anyone.
So the last word here is: if you want to be considered a good ‘lover’, make sure you give pleasure – no more, no less.
Important Note on Hygiene: When providing manual sensual stimulation to a female, it is extremely important not to go from stimulating anywhere close to the anal area, to stimulating the vaginal area. If bacteria from the anus/rectum are transferred to the vagina, vaginal infection can occur. This said, it is a good idea to wear thin latex gloves if there is any chance of this happening, then to remove the gloves, or else wash ones’ hands after manually stimulating the anus/rectum areas. These simple strategies can be used to prevent nasty painful vaginal infections that can sometimes lead to sterility.
A word on Lubricants - Although not at all a necessity, many people enjoy adding lubricant to their hands during manual sensual playtime. The use of lubricant can and does increase sensitivity significantly as well as decrease any discomfort that might be caused by friction. If manually stimulating the anus or rectum, lubricant is highly recommended as these tissues do not self-lubricate.
Trimming Sharp Fingernails - When stimulating the vagina and rectum, neatly trimmed and filed fingernails are helpful if one is trying to avoid damaging tissue. Because the tissues inside the vagina and rectum are sensitive; sharp or ragged nails may result in tearing the skin and exposing the recipient to infection. However if you don’t want to trim your nails back to nothing, gloves can be worn to smooth the edges of and reduce the risk of scratching your partner’s sensitive areas... read more
Oral Herpes, Gonorrhea, Chlamydia and even HIV are more likely to be transmitted to the performer of Oral Sex than the recipient or oral stimulation provided by another's tongue and mouth.
The international HIV and AIDS charity AVERT, explains it this way - transmission can occur when “sexual fluid (semen or vaginal fluid) or blood (from menstruation or a wound somewhere in the genital or anal region) gets into a cut, sore, ulcer or area of inflammation somewhere in their mouth or throat.
The other leading risk through oral sex is gonorrhea. STD clinics across the globe consistently report that between 5 to 10 percent of their patients have gonorrhea of the throat. Scarier still are the huge rise in cases of antibiotic-resistant oral gonorrhea - meaning these cases are harder to treat with antibiotics, yet not entirely incurable.
Chlamydia and syphilis are in the second tier of risk through oral sex. A Chicago study found that 13.7 percent of syphilis cases were attributed to oral sex. Generally, though, it’s believed to be uncommon. As for syphilis, that seemingly antiquated infection, it has proved to be 'easily transmitted' via oral sex. According to AVERT 'if a person’s mouth comes into contact with an open sore or a skin rash caused by the infection, according to AVERT.
Further down the list of risk are Hepatitis A, gastrointestinal infections, and parasites, among others.
One takeaway for all the gals out there who are unlucky enough to be regularly coerced into providing blow jobs for fellas is that performing Fellatio tends to be far riskier than performing cunnilingus. Across all STIs, formally known as STD's and all sex acts, generally the partner receiving the other's genitalia into their mouth area is the one at greater risk for STI and HIV acquisition; the idea being that wherever ejaculate winds up, that’s also where the greatest burden of infectious material will also wind up.
But that hardly means that Cunnilingus performers are in the clear. It seems the risk of contracting syphilis, herpes or HPV by performing oral sex on a woman is “arguably just as high” as with fellatio “since these infections can occur both inside the vagina and on the skin surface.”
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